How can I get my depressed and lonely brother to meet people?
- Sunday Oct 25,2009 02:15 PM
- By diddy
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My little brother is depressed. He says he feels lonely and has no real friends. I don’t live at home and even when I’m there he doesn’t like going out with my friends. He’s going to community college in Miami while I’m in gainesville. He says he doesn’t like living at home but when I suggest that he should come to Gainesville or live somewhere new he says he’d rather stay home. Sometimes I wish he would just meet new people..
How can I encourage him to meet new people?
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I believe that he most likely feels abnormal when he looks at everyone else around him. Due to that possibility, he most likely wants to be happy and fit in. At the same time he probably thinks he can’t fit in so his heart doesn’t open to other peoples kindness. That means blind kindness most likely won’t work on him. He’s probably even shy around the people at college so getting something working there will be difficult.
My suggestion is that the first step you should take is to find out what his interests are and try your best to relate to him to the point where he feels he can relate to you in some way. If he can see himself as someone similar to someone he thinks he is normal, then he may open up to your kindness.
after a closer relation and bonding he might just accept your offer to go where you are OR just hang out with you and your friends.
what he needs the most before anything is to feel like a normal person.
Go with the people he would never normally ever go with.
They wouldn’t have a overly biased opinion on him so they are more likely to let him be with them yet also let him get to know these people and get to know them better.
Thats the best way to get friends.
He needs to start loving and accepting himself. If he doesn’t, no one will. Instead of feeling sorry for himself, he should build up his self-esteem and self-respect. If you want friends, you need to be a friend first.
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