How do i help my friend to understand how serious an abortion is?
- Tuesday Dec 1,2009 10:58 AM
- By diddy
- In Others
My best friend is pregnant and she is getting an abortion. Abortion is the best option for her at this time so i am not questioning whether she should keep the baby or not.
She just seems to be taking it so lightly and even laughs about it, she doesn’t understand an abortion is serious. How can i make her see how serious it is and what she is actually doing without talking her out of it?
Best Friend, Getting An Abortion, Pregnant
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If u know she’s doing the right thing why do you want her to feel guilty about it? If she’s confident in her decision I don’t see why she has to stress over it.
abort her, see how much she likes it
You can’t teach someone to care.
she is just trying to cope, man. its just as hard to have a baby as it is to kill it, so shes just trying to find a way to make it seem not as bad. my uncle had cancer and he would do the same thing. its just a coping mechanism and i suggest doing Absolutely Nothing.
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Take her to an abortion protest.. The protestors are intense and extremely opinionated.. Your friend would get an ear load of information on the subject, whether she asked or not, especially if they found out she was planning on getting one..
just try to talk to her; say like i support you in whatever decision you make but im worried that you seem to be taking it so lightly. i think it is one of those things where you might feel one way before and a completely different way afterwards and I just want you to know what to expect and be ready to have different feelings so that you can cope with them. its just because i care about u.
Visuals work best for some people.
How about websites to show her, or pamphlets to give her?
Make her watch an abortion
honestly you may have to take out a bible, it even talks about the life of an unborn baby found in Exodus 21:22,23 and Psalm 127:3. and just basically say that if God thinks that it is wrong then shouldnt we?
If an abortion is the best option for her at this time why does it matter how she takes it?
I’m sorry but abortion is never the best option in my opinion. No matter what the stage, it is a life. However, that is not the question you asked. I am not sure where you live but I know around here there are places to go for people who have already made that mistake. You could possibly take her there to talk to someone who has been through it. Visit http://www.prolife.com
Youtube "the silent scream"
if she doesn’t realize it after watching that video, then she just won’t realize it. It shows the abortion from the inside, how the fetus is trying to get away from it and then it getting killed.
And they say it’s not alive. Peh. Tell that to the staunch pro-choice feminist who HAD the abortion who can’t even talk about the subject now, and the doctor who performed it who saw the tape and never did another one in his life.
You mind your own damned business. And tell others here to do the same. As one person already posted, humor may be a coping mechanism and it’s rather crappy of you to believe that she doesn’t think it is a serious decision.
Maybe she’s NOT SORRY? Ever thought of that? Not all women cry over abortions. I am sure she feels relieved to have one. Stop pushing your morality on her.
Im sure she realizes. Its very personal and she probably doesnt wanna talk about it. Jokes might help her through this rough process. Just cause shes not reacting the way you would doesnt mean you need to make her understand anything. I know your good buds, but butt out on this one.
An abortion doesn’t have to be as serious and traumatic as people make it out to be. Generally, it is pro-life people that will say dramatic statements about abortion to scare people out of it because they think it’s murder. of course, abortion is not murder, and it’s possible to have a therapeutic abortion and only experience relief. In fact, most women experience relief after an abortion.
An abortion is very minor surgery, or even a medical procedure, and side effects will be few. She will experience cramps and bleeding much like a period. She can expect to be overly emotional as well as her pregnancy hormones go down. It’s completely normal to not feel guilt and not cry, especially since she is confident in her decision. An abortion isn’t tragic, life goes on.
It seems you might be the one who needs to review their understanding of abortion. It is good your friend isn’t held up in a lot of the lies about abortion. The below site is great for information on abortion and coping.
Yes, abortion is a big deal. However, maybe this is her way of coping. People deal with serious things in many ways, which even include joking about it or being non-challant. There’s nothing wrong with that.
This may just be her way of dealing. It’s a serious decision; I’m sure she knows that since she’s the one making it. Just be there for her and talk about whatever she needs to talk about.
abortion is wrong. ok here is why, the law says its ok becasue a woman can do whatever she wants with her body. the baby is not her body the baby is totally dependent on her to survive! so it is ok by law to have an abortion however it is not a very good thing for your frined she could put the baby up for adoption, that is the best thing, think about that could be someone’s mom or dad aunt or uncle someone’s loved one and she is not understanding.. and why do you think it is a ok choice? you obiously know it is wrong or you would not care about how your friend is acting, you”d be just as igorant and laughing about this poor babies life, i’d gladly raise the child. many people would, what could be more important than life???
I find it sad that a lot of good answers that were posted was marked thumbs down so much and then ignored. I also find it sad that people would agree to kill a baby. I don’t think having an abortion should be even an option. What person would do such a thing for whatever their reason,whether it be that they don’t want a kid or they can’t support it financially, and feel no remorse. Its never right.=(
It is more than likely that your friend is simply putting on a brave front. Not wanting those around her even you as her friend to know how she Truly feels. In my opinion instead of assuming she doesn’t understand the gravity of the her actions let her know that you are there for her that if and when she needs a shoulder to cry on it will be yours and allow her to feel comfortable enough with you that she can let that guard down and express her true feelings but I think what is most important is that you do not try to get her to feel the way you feel she should everyone deals with stressful situations in their own way and trying to force someone to do things differently won’t help either party.
Best Wishes
Ash
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