How do I prevent myself from looking stupid?
- Monday Dec 7,2009 07:45 AM
- By diddy
- In Others
I am going to a party tomorrow and WILL be required to dance. I am a bad dancer, but realistic; I don’t want to do anything too ambitious, I just want to be able to stand on the dancefloor without looking like a complete idiot. Please give me some tips as to the above!
People have told me just to ‘feel the rythmn’ and ‘move to the music’ but like I said I am really bad at this and that means nothing to me.
How do I ‘move to the music’?
Which bits do I move, when, where and how?
Thanks in advance, I am getting quite stressed about this now!
Dancefloor, Dancer, Going To A Party, Move To The Music, Party Tomorrow, Rythmn, Stupid, Thanks In Advance
22 Comments
dress skanky…no one will really pay attention to the dancing then…
It really matters less than you realize. Just relax and have a good time. Nobody is going to care how well you dance. Nobody is even going to notice unless you bump into them.
do the one two step let your body feel the beat of the music
Start thinking that the people around you are more stupid than you.Thats it.
dance with your friends and relax
don’t worry so much! Just go out there and have fun! besides, maybe you’ll meet someone who is also not a good dancer and fall in love!
Wear sunglasses.
Required to dance? Are you in prison? It’s obvious you don’t feel you want to dance, so I recommend you don’t. Take some dancing lessons if you want to get comfortable doing it.
Don’t stress out…if nothing else sway to the music. Watch some MTV or some music videos and see what they do. Practice in front of a mirror.
Have FUN!
The best way to learn to dance, is to pick parents that will, when you are between 2 and 3 years old, move to the music. Unfortunately most parents, do not allow their children to do this, especially if they make ’suggestive’ movements. they tell their children to sit still. Most ‘black’ families, do not do this, but instead encourage their children to move to the music, which is why so many black men, can dance.
I too am a bad dancer, even though when I was younger, I was a good athlete, and very limber.
You don’t have the time, but you might try to start moving in front of a mirror, when no one is around, and compare yourself to what you have seen.
Good luck.
dont be you
i know it comes naturally
As long as you dont get to excited no one will notice if your not exactly burning up the floor, they’ll be too busy fretting about what they look like!
Listen to the bass line and try to count to four on the beats (1… 2…. 3…. 4…. 1…. 2…. 3…. 4…. etc etc) then do the side step (with your left foot step to the side then bring the right foot next to it, then right foot step, left foot next to it) on each beat (one step per beat). For you arms hold a handbag.
You are probably more self conscious than klutzy. Watch how others dance and immitate their moves. You really don’t need to do a lot, just sway your body and maybe move your feet a little. Try to think about having fun; everyone does their own thing anyway.
Well I agree with one of the previous answers about you being forced to dance - but let’s assume you have to. The first thing to do is listen to the music, count 1,2,3,4 in time with the beat. Next you need to move your shoulders in time to this beat. As long as you do this everything else you do will be fine - it really is that easy (don’t worry about moving your feet, but if you do go with the same beat).
It really is easy - assuming you can count.
Let us know how you get on…
I’m nearly totaly blind & have had a chance to dance, & as long as I leave my cane @ my seat know one really cares there too concerned about who lookin @ them. I flail around the dance floor just try not to bump too many people all fun
avoid a bra, ppl will hradly notice ur dancing that way. Lol
On a serious note, don’t drink b4 hitting the floor as u mite have have the illusion of being the best dancer of the world. Try keeping ur hands and legs close to ur body with no big movements, even if there is an urge :). Wear a nice smile always even if ur doin not too good.
Moreover, in the initial 15 mins. observe other ppl and after that copy their moves. That shud help ya out with the nite I guess.
Frankly speaking, I don’t give much damn bout other ppl. while am dancing. I prefer doin ma own thing and I know I can give ya competition in the worst dancing contest.
I wish I had a simple answer to this question. It is by no means unusual for young women to feel that they lack confidence in certain situations, but clearly you are sufficiently worried about this that it must go beyond the usual shyness of worries about making oneself look silly.
Getting over this needs support and training. Teaching self-assertiveness is the term usually used for helping people overcome lack of self-confidence. There are professionals who do this, but it will cost you money, and you would need to be sure you were going to someone reputable and properly qualified.
There are however a number of books and tapes that can help teach self-assertiveness, and looking for publications under this heading in bookshops or the library may be the best place to start.
Many young people suffer from this sort of problem, and so you are not alone. Trying to overcome it can help in all spheres of life. You must believe in yourself and what you do, and I am sure, with a little help, you will be able to achieve that.
I could also give you some more tips if u wish!!
1) Wear a dress that you like very much. This makes you feel confident.
2) Have enough money so that you can manage to your self self esteem.
3) Always stay with a friend who makes you feel happy and who makes you laugh like anything.
4) Do not indulge in taking alcohol - b’coz u might dance, but u may loose ur reputation.
If you would like to know more about sefl confidence, try the following website : http://ezinearticles.com/?Free-Tips-To-Improve-Self-Confidence&id=49628
Dont be so concious of what other people think of you just go with it. Dancing to me is individual interpretation of how you feel the music . Who cares about trends. and whats hot now. just enjoy yourself and your youth.
Either borrow or buy a cane, otherwise known as a walking stick. Pretend you fell in the shower, and severly bruised your right leg (or left one if you prefer, but you must remember to keep your story straight). Bring a tube of ointment for the bruises so you can display it during the party. You will become the pampered darling of the party and attract many admirers. It will be the best party you ever attended.
First, try to avoid the dance floor and talk, relax yourself!!
If somebody asks you for a dance, don’t say no, becuse he will find out that you can’t dance very well. Just let him drive you in the groove!
100 pro. worked for my friend!
Good Luck!!!
P.S Don’t get stressed!
dont feel bad just do wateva makes u feel comfortabel….dont adjust urself so u fit in fitting in is not the best solution i mean i cant dance like for dances like socials or school dances because i do a different kind of dance i do jazz and tap but i dont incorprate them into dancing outside of dance so yea but u shouldnt feel stupid and feleing stupid can also be really cool because wen u mae a foolof urself u just pick urself up and laugh at urself its fine trust me thats wat i do
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