How do you politely ask people to not touch your baby?
- Thursday Dec 24,2009 03:23 AM
- By diddy
- In Others
Today I was running errands during my 3 month old daughters nap time. It took over an hour for a trip that should have been about a half hour because women kept stopping to look at my daughter and talk to me. While I am flattered when they tell me how beautiful my daughter is, it gets very frustrating because they always touch her, which I don’t like very much. Any advise on how to politely ask people not to do this and get away quickly so I can get my shopping done? Please no negative answers! Thanks!
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There really isn’t a polite way to do this. If these people were willing to listen to polite requests, they would have been polite and asked to touch the baby instead of just grabbing it.
can you please not touch my baby?
tell them she has a cold and she has to be clear of germs.
"Could you please not touch her she gets cranky and scared easy"
Just tell them, "I’m sorry, but I just don’t like people touching her because she’s only a baby, I don’t want her to catch anything." Then take atttention off the topic by saying, "Wow, I like your scarf!" or something just a second after.
"I’m sorry, my baby doesn’t like being touched by strangers."
some people can be so impertinent.
I dont think theres a nice way its going to sound rude anyway you say it….
Seriously, if they approach too closely, (if shes in your arms or in a stroller) either casually turn away or pull the stroller towards yourself. If the woman persists, kindly ask her to not touch your baby. If she persists further, then you may have to put that ***** down.
make a excuse like get uncomftrable wit ppl
or i need to check diper
Get a sling! No one will be able to tough your baby, plus she will be snuggled up and comfortable against your body.
Just say ‘’sorry, I have to get going ..nice meeting you though!”’
It isn’t rude and they can’t stop you from leaving when you say you have too.
just thank them and then say out loud oh its already(blank time) i gotta hurry idk
tell them she doesn’t like strangers, and she might start crying.
then they’ll leave her alone.
"Please, she doesn’t like it when you touch her."
lol welllllll. The only polite way is to tell them that you’re in a hurry and leave before they say anything. or you could just ignore them when they walk up to you. OR lol this ones good-say your baby has a contagious life threatening disease that will spread to them if they touch her. lol. okay they probably wouldn’t buy that.
lol say no offense but could you not touch her
Hang a little sign from the handle of her seat that says, "Please don’t touch me–I get sick really easily. Love, _________"
One thing that may help you speed things up is to throw a blanket over the seat. If they can’t see her, then they can’t touch her and won’t bother you.
Alot of mother’s have this problem….just say you would rather them not touch your daughter because she’s so young. Say it politely…there is no other way of letting people know how you feel…
You could also by a netted cover to put over the stroller so nobody can see your baby or touch her…:)
You don’t have to ask. Maybe just make a little noise inn your throat or something or start small talk to distract them. some people will get offended that you asked them to stop. Or you can always go and pick up the baby or something and that should be a hint.
Put a sign on the baby shirt that says DON’T YOU TOUCH ME I MEAN IT OR MY MOM WILL KILL YOU
that way you dont have to say a word
just say it: Please don’t disturb my baby.
They ought know better….I admire other peoples kids all the time but it is a form of proper behavior NOT to fiddle with someone elses child unless the offer is made by the parent. These people are bieng rude , not you.
just tell them in a calm nice voice that you just don’t feel comfortable with ppl touching her b/c you don’t want your child sick or spread germs. and say " no offense"
There’s no such thing as politeness in this situation. I would tell them she has a rare disease that is highly contagious from skin contact, Either that, or say "watch out, she’s always projectile vomiting". You want to get your shopping done, don’t you?
"The doctor doesn’t want anyone outside the home handling her."
Dont let people hold you up. Tell them you are in a big hurry at the moment. Everyone has been in a hurry before. Roll with your day… and I think its really healthy for you baby to allow people to touch her. Its is socializing for her. Know what I mean?
Hi! there is no real easy way to get past this but you could try saying "Sorry I’m in a bit of a hurry" and keep going. Or if she is in her pram place a light cover or netting that is safe over the front ( so you can see in and out ) and then people can only comment but not touch.
I hope this helps and good luck
I keep my son in a sling when we are out. People don’t think twice to invade a baby’s personal space but they do an adults. I still have people comment on how cute my son is or ask how old he is but I can answer quickly and walk away without anyone trying to touch him. I noticed that if I keep him in his car seat they do try to touch him and I have to stop so they can peak around to take a look.
This is an idea too.
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2970593
my mom has the same problem with my Little brother, there really isn’t a good or polite way to tell someone not too, you kind of just have to say don’t touch my baby, make up something like she is sick, or just got over something, or say the doc said to limit the times people touch her, then tell them sorry they cant touch her, i don’t know though you have to make something up, hope it helps…
Please don’t touch her up like that? I mean they themselves can be so INSENSITIVE! You are in public, you can’t just go around touching young babies with your dirty hands! I know just how you feel! When I just had my daughter, my friends used to want to be kissing her on her face, I used to be like "nuh-uh! don’t b kissing her up like that, I don’t know where your mouth’s bin!"
Put a shirt on her that says "Touch me and that shirt will be a completely different color"
I was the same way with my boys…it drove me insane for random strangers to touch them. I usually used the excuse
"ooh…I’m know he looks SO snugly, but sorry, he is just getting over a cold (or whatever) and I’m trying to expose him physically to as FEW people as possible….so I’d rather no one touch/hold him for now."
GOOD LUCK!
i am a little too nice so i always say "she does not like strangers very much" or "she is a lite sleeper"..it bothers me to people use to actually touch my stomach when i was pregnant and the other day i was in wal mart a woman followed me through 3 isles asking every question you could imagine about my daughter.she really started scaring me i thought she was going to try and take my daughter..i finally told her to get away from my daughter and i after she asked to hold her but if you do not mind being a little blunt i would just say "sorry could you please not touch her"
Maybe instead of telling them not to touch your baby just say thank you and say something like, well if I ever want to get my shopping done today then I gotta go! I have a long shopping list. Ofcourse, you are not always at the store and depending on the person, this may or may not work. Try something like I’m in a hurry but it was nice to talk to you or thank you, her name is _____________, she is very sensitive and I don’t want her to cry so could you please not touch her, thankyou. Or pick her up and rock her in your arms a little. Hopefully this helps and by the way, congratulations on the baby!!!
Well, simply tell them you must get a move on it because you have to get home to feed your daughter. My Mother just gave birth to my new baby sister about 2 weeks ago and the same happens to her. Everytime it happens she just makes up a new excuse every time. Besides I’m just curious why they would be touching her in the first place, this actually seems to be really rude. ugh i can totally see where your coming from…why would u want some strangers dirty hands on your baby. Good luck on this one.
I have never actually ran into this. Almost everyone would ask, may I touch her cute little toes? Or, May I hold her?
That’s just rude to touch babies that aren’t yours. I can’t believe people.
Anyway, just make sure you have a thin blanket on her in public and leave only her hands and face free, if someone goes to touch just say, "Ohhhh she actually doesn’t like that! Sorry, but she scares easily."
I did not let anyone but family, and close friends, touch my son, just out of caution against sickness. How about, "please don’t touch her, she is just getting over being ill". Her immune system is not strong yet. Put her health above their feelings. Do you think someone who doesn’t wash their hand after using the mall bathroom, is going to think twice about pinching your bundle of joy on the cheek. It is not being rude. You write well, I’m sure you talk just as good.
say …"please do not touch ..she will cry." that to people you do not
know. And to people that you do know…".please wash your hands
before holding the baby" Remember she is YOUR BABY!
I used to sweep them away from the touchers and say that we have to go!
just dont stop, someone aproach you look bussy and walk on
or smile and nod if you want to be polite and then walk on, do not engage in conversation, dont stop
whta they going to do? come runing after you? most wont do that
the bf also sugest to stop being afraid to be rude and just go
"Don’t. Touch. The baby."
though since he is a big bloke its less likely to earn him objections, then a small female, people are instantly intimidated by big size so less likely to lecture him on being rude
I don’t think there is a nice way to say it. But, your job is not to be nice, but to protect your baby. When my daughter was like 3 mos a man at church said that when his kids were little they liked to suck on his finger. He, then, put his finger in my daughter’s mouth. I was sooooo disgusted. I wanted to punch him in the face. I’m getting pissed right now just thinking about it. And it was over 12 years ago. Don’t worry about sounding rude, just do your thing and care for that baby!
tell`em to ***k off that you dont like peaple touching on you or the baby
I know how frustrating that can be.
I used to carry my son in a sling to try to prevent that from happening and even then people still reached out to touch him.
I soon gave up on being polite, if I was in a hurry I had no time for manners so I would just state rudely ‘Don’t touch my baby’. Usually people would then be put off by my attitude and just leave us alone.
To me having strangers not touching my baby was more important than appearing polite, I would rather some one think I was rude than touch him.
" I am not trying to be rude,but I do not like people that I do not know touching my child.Please keep your hands to yourself.Thanks"..That should do it.
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