How does a suicide affect friends and family?
- Thursday Jan 7,2010 04:52 AM
- By diddy
- In Others
More specifically, do the chances of someone committing suicide go up if a loved one committed suicide? How much? I would like specific facts and figures if possible if there is a professional out there.
For clarification, I am not contemplating suicide. No one I know has commited suicide and this is not really a personal issue for me at the moment. I have an interest in phsychology and wasnt haveing any luck finding any specific figures based on studies and such. I assume since suicide is such a big issue, that there has to be some fairly easily findable solid info. Also, I am a writer and I have a story idea, but I like to collect a lot of solid background info beforehand. You know, have more knowledge then you actually plan to use. Please, anyone who may have done research on this for their job or for a thesis or something, I am very curious.
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Social scientists talk about "suicide clusters" so even when something hits the news about suicide, - you’ll see a percentage of people do it to themselves.
That’s why I’m against the ‘right to die’ campaigns that state nobody should make you live if you don’t want to. ie. -like abortion we’ll some day have "killing centers’ where folks can walk (or roll) right in and be done away with.
no it doesnt, everyone has a mind of thier own, suicide is a persons choice, whether or not someone in thier family has done so. Suicide is more likely to occur, when you dont talk about your problems, and bottle things up inside
Yes it affects them, to the extent that they feel connected to the person and or feel responsible for it or possibly responsible for it.
And it leaves a bad legacy for the family too.
Its better to just travel someplace far and be lost first I think if you are considering it.
Yes, suicide rate does go up, but mostly in teenagers who doesnt have a very stable emotion and had thoughts about suicide, but the chances might be different between different peoples comparing their mentle endurent and ablilty to cope with diffcult stiuations.
I don’t know exact fact and figures, try psychologytoday.com. But I do know that you are more likely to commit suicide if someone in your family has done it before. My aunt did it way before I was born, and my parents told me once that they worried about me because they’re understanding was that it was much more likely to happen to someone else in the family. I don’t know if it is nature or nurture but….
Well…here’s a drawn out answer for you. I’m not a psychologist, but my mom killed herself 9 years ago.
First, it’s horrible. There are so many questions and so much guilt. We feel like if only we would’ve been there, if only we would’ve done this or that…it could have changed the outcome of our lives.
As far as the rest of us being prone to suicide? My brother has had oh…4 attempts since 1997. The last one being early this year. He’s a bit of a drama king, but the bottom line is that he needs counseling, and the rest of us can’t convince him to get it.
As far as I’m concerned, I opened a non-profit in her honor, and have pretty much devoted my life to helping others through their grief with it.
It all depends on which way you go with your grief. You can either use it to better your life, or you can use it to screw it up even further.
in every way
I really don’t know if the rate goes up amoung family members other than if depression runs in the family but I can tell you from a first-hand perspective how suicide affects loved ones. My uncle committed suicide when I was 19. He left behind 3 young children and was the youngest child in his own family. The first to die. On a personal level I was absolutely devastated. Even though logically I know his suicide was not my fault or my problem to solve, it did not stop the tremendous and overwhelming guilt I felt for not having seen the signs. He and I were very close buddies and spent a great deal of time together fishing and goofing off. He was more like a brother to me than an uncle. He died nearly 15 years ago and to this day I still cannot speak his name without my throat constricting and my eyes tearing up. I fear it’s a pain that will never completely go away. I had nightmares for years after his death, primarily dreaming about what I could have or should have done to stop him.
His children, once highly functional and secure young people, became completely screwed up. One child turned to drugs and alcohol and has had many run-in’s with the law. Another developed an eating disorder and suffered through a failed marriage. Not surprisingly she married a man quite a bit older than herself, trying to replace the father-figure she lost on some subconcious level. The rest of the family still cannot talk about his death. One mention of his name sends them all into a bawling frenzy. Our family has been absolutely devastated by suicide, no doubt about it. Personally, I don’t think anyone else will commit suicide now simply because we DO know how it affects others. I’m sure when my uncle pulled the trigger he never really thought it would impact us so much. Suicide is the most ultimate selfish act one can perform.
honey………………………..dont do it
I figure it would make them feel guilty. like there might have been something they could have done if they had paid more attention
read this:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/suicide/MH00048
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